Are you in any relationship?
This very question; I should say is the most probing query among brethren. Most times, we make these queries forgetting the fact that the word ‘relationship’ do have a varied approach in meaning.
The term relationship though most often used to mean; sexual relations, the act of intercourse, romantic or sexual involvement. But the word relationship should better be approached by Christians to mean the manner in which two things may be associated. To have a connection. A way in which two or more people behave and are involved with each other.
Thus, we can assert that everyone is in a relationship. From the dimension of a man being a social animal to the dimension of everyone being connected to one another in varied ways, we could expand the relationship to include the various connections of man that can make for an association.
Some of these connection includes:
These three classes above are the three primary classes of relationship. Acquaintances most times are made in places of social institutions; schools, churches, market, workplace etc. We tend to make friends with people we cross paths with regularly: people we go to school with, work with, or live close to. The more we see someone, the more likely the chance of developing a friendship with them.
From the three above we can graduate to have:
Who is a friend?
Friendship starts the moment two persons acknowledges a sense of (mutual) relevance and developed a sincere respect for (each of) the other. So we have friends even among siblings. A friend is someone you trust and share a deep level of understanding and communication.
Another big factor in friendship is common interests. We tend to be drawn to people we share things with: a hobby, the same cultural background, a shared career path, the same age range, sense of reasoning, values and vision etc. Think about the things you like to do or the causes you care about. Where can you meet people who share the same interests? Those are places for a relationship.
Friendship also develops between you and those who Show a genuine interest in what’s going on in your life, what you have to say, and how you think and feel about things.
They are those who accept you for who you are. Those who would listen to you attentively without judging you, telling you how to think or feel, or trying to change the topic.
They are those who feel comfortable sharing things about themselves with you. As friendship works both ways, a friend is also someone you feel comfortable supporting and accepting, and someone with whom you share a bond of trust and loyalty.
Other forms of connection typically develop from friendship. They include:
As we would learn in subsequent articles, it is pertinent that we progress in our relationship from the lowest cadre to the epic. A typical relationship would start from the basic classes; like acquaintances, to the secondary level; like friendship, then finally, to a commitment cadre; like marriage. This way, no room is left for regrets.