Women and Silence

It is the honor of a woman in her integrity to be given every explanation until she is cleared, certified and willing to admit so…

Ede S.S.

It is in the integrity of a woman to give her consent or dissent.

Introduction

There is a class in women; while some are very expensive, others are not.
Their cost may not be socioeconomic or value wise but most importantly dependent on their goals, expectations and the person of the man in question.

Instances will help but to avoid going biased; when a man chooses to go for the woman who is in the class of the fishes that are retained in the bottom of the river bed when the bait/feed is being cast and others are afloat to catch, that man having winked at those who rushes for the bait from the background sounds even before it is cast; such man must be ready to duck the shields of the woman, the man must be ready to know that;
It is the honor of a lady in her integrity to be given every explanation until she is certified, clear and willing to admit so.

And so I will take on one of the shields of women which is silence.

The instance on Shield of Questioning

There are a number of shield women wield; shield of questioning, for example, that moment when you finish blabbing to a lady and she is like ‘I don’t understand or what do you mean?… Is an antic to hide from giving her stance(detail here).

The Shield of Silence.

Silence is a very sensitive shield, especially when properly wielded by women. When misused, silence can kill a relationship. But a man who loves his relationship must be skilled in handling women’s silence while avoiding the error of assumption.

Silence Defined

English is full of overlapping words, but for the purposes of this article, regard silence as a retreat from words, the refusal to speak up one’s position in a matter.

Silence is the ocean of the unsaid, the unspeakable, the repressed, the erased, the unheard. Is an ocean, very wide. Every reasoning you put up to describe it is an assumption and assumption is the lowest level of knowledge.

Various Ways Ladies Wield Silence

  • Silence Treat: When one gives a long-standing silence as a response to a crucial and sometimes pressing inquiry. Mostly seen in the expensive women end.
  • Silent Assumptions: these are serious assumptions especially in the side of the ladies. It manifests when a man continues to act in a way that instills intimacy in the lady. For instance, an undefined closeness or when a man takes a lady for a ride in an opportunistic way. By exploiting her womanhood and toiling with her feelings. A silent assumption is taking place in this scenario when such ladies behave to the extent of assuming a futuristic purpose for the relationship even with it not being outrightly spoken by the man. This scenario is common in the nonexpensive women end.

Now should ladies always respond in silence- NO!

Ladies misuse silence when they leave a guy deadlocked in a silence treat open-ended. That silence is golden is an old saying that needs to be aborted, as our world keeps evolving. My advice to ladies is to be positive in their use of silence or avoid it. Explaining your positions to a guy will save him from the error of gross assumptions that is unhealthy. Giving your consent or dissent will save your life from complications and liberate you from manipulating others with indecisiveness (Beuderah).

Speaking Up is Way Better

I trace The origin of silence to the patriarchs and oriental societies of the 19th century. Such silence that promulgated colonialism, racism, gender, etc.

Silence and powerlessness go hand in hand – no wonder powerful men who cause revolution are furious and outspoken… furious like Martin Luther King Jn, like Mandela, like Ojukwu. Am thinking we’ve not had women like that from Africa because African women were (not so now) trained to give silence when matters are most serious.

The phobia that promulgates silence is not worth the revolution and difference that communications will make. Ladies should allow room for collaborative negotiations where necessary. And should use the shield of questioning to verify every undefined behavior while avoiding every silent assumption.

What Should Men Know

My advice for guys is to learn to handle silence.
There are lots still expected of guys in our society. Guys should spend time building a friendship. With well-deserved friendship, you could be in a position to predict the supposed response of a woman. You will be able to hack into their silence and get explanations with minimal assumptions.

Why I think guys could hack into the silence is because most times back during the friendship stages, the lady may have explained… Women talks without taking pride in it. But prides it in few situations/serious inquiries like proposing. But if you had had them talking, you can tell in their silence.

Counsel in the heart of man is like deep water; BUT A MAN OF UNDERSTANDING WILL DRAW IT OUT.

Prov 20:5b.

Applying Wisdom

When negotiating, always look at the entire picture and realized that sometimes, by tackling the smaller issue, the larger ones will be affected and thus fall into place on their own. People should pass the hallmarks of friendship before proceeding to date and thereafter get to giving it a futuristic definition.

We had a situation not long ago-Where a guy met a lady and started proposing to her on the first date with claims that God told him she is his wife.

You know when people mention God or Holy Spirit in a matter, is like let everyone keep quiet and swallow it hook and sink. But its practically wrong to propose to someone on the first date, not even first month. Because you are not the only guy the girl has seen. You will not even imagine how many proposals that may have come her way.

Don’t Move Faster in Words Or Actions then You are Ready to Handle

Lastly, men should know that ladies are very vulnerable. They have feelings that are easily instilled. Even situations where they are manifesting spirituality, a woman will always be a woman. Thus, men should always define every closeness, upholding spiritual principles in relating to the opposite sex while avoiding riding on a lady whether intentionally or unintentionally.

Last Word

The shield of silence is only potent when wielded with wisdom. 1 Corinthians 14:40 Let all things be done decently and in order.

I rest my case.

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17 thoughts on “Women and Silence

  1. Nice one Steve. I like the part of friendship first, it helps one tackle the small things that matter in relationship.
    Thanks.

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  2. The beginning meant that the consent or dissent of ladies are test to their integrity…
    Like any response they give is important and binding

    As such they needs all explanations necessary

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  3. The paragraph about class in women
    I was trying to point out that someone could be giving his love expression to a lady who is yet certain about a choice response
    The more the other party is reluctant to reciprocate the expression the more expensive it presents to be to the other persn(sorry in that article I was biased and it look like it’s only ladies that could be expensive)

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  4. Maybe my choice of word sha
    But I meant yielding or unyielding
    The more unyielding the more difficult
    Difficult is what I mean by expensive

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  5. 👉🏽 Life of relationship is like a Ladder, Everyone is trying to reach up. So the realities is that Some one will be aiming to have the expression of his love accepted By another somewhat higher While somebody somewhere lower is wishing to have him take his love expression. The implication of these is on the ladies Whose integrity it is to say yes.
    A lady must not give herself cheaply to any guy…
    That does not imply doing pretentive shakara
    But it does mean not falling for a guy / putting ur heart in it Until he proves and makes it work.

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  6. Hi, Steve.
    I am not religious, but I do appreciate you following my blog.
    Best wishes from England, Pete.

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  7. Interesting and good article so I am going to reblog this one for you.

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  8. Thank you for choosing to follow my blog!

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