This article is the second side of the coin for my previous article titled ‘who is really a beautiful woman?’ where I tried to establish that real beauty goes beyond the relativism definition of beauty; as to the eyes of the beholder, to being pragmatically deducible. Thus, we had lists of parameters for defining physical beauty. Do get details here.
Beauty is one of the concepts in humanity that is understood to be extremely biased. Continuing on a beautiful woman, there is inarguably a big gap between real beauty and true beauty. While real beauty can be knelled down to parameters, true beauty is quite much a subjective opinion and much suitably defined with the beholder’s criteria.
Both approaches to defining beauty are subjective. But true beauty is even more subjective and prone to a biased analysis. However, a conscious effort to adopt a spiritual Christian perspective of beauty is maintained in this article.
The choice of the word ‘TRUE’ is intentionally chosen to meet with the objective of this article in describing what should be concerned on beauty in a Christian relationship.
While beauty described in my previous article was tilted in the favor of the physical reality, here beauty is described on the basis of the truth; the eternal litmus test for beauty. Charm can be deceiving and beauty fades away …Proverb 31: 30. The real beautiful people are more focused on the passing beauty and fading good looks, but truly beautiful people understand that true beauty comes from within.
SO, WHO IS TRULY A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN?
True beauty lies not in looking good, but in being good. To be truly beautiful, the necessary parameters are qualities of love, kindness, joy, peaceable, compassion, forgiveness and honesty. These are not common, as compared to external adornment, and hence are rarer to come by.
A beautiful woman is a woman that is full and empowered in the Holy Ghost. A woman with a life that encourages inspires and empowers others. A confident woman satisfied in her uniqueness and focused in making a difference and leading others in the light of her uniqueness.
When you are confident you are not constantly looking for the approval of others. Such confidence is founded in courage, experience, and wisdom. Also, is a woman that honors the lord in and out of season.
Again, a beautiful woman is a woman of relevance, whose influence is relevant to the making of a healthy society. A beautiful woman is a woman with a diamond heart; a heart for the people like Queen Esther. …whose adorning is not in the outward adorning of plaiting the hair and wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel. But in the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God a great price. 1peter 3 vs 3-4. Also as in 1cor 9 vs 22.
More so, a beautiful woman is a strong woman whose strength is in the Lord. One who in her weakness; being a weaker vessel, is strong in the power of the Lord, and in the power of His might Eph 6 vs10.
There is nothing more contagious than a woman with positive energy. Such a woman is a force of positive influence as we see with the case scenario of biblical women like; the woman of Samaria, Deborah, Mary, Esther, Ruth, etc.
And, the list continues. Do add your own definition in the comment box.
WHAT MAKES A WOMAN BEAUTIFUL?
From every spiritual sense, beauty is much more the crown of a beautiful life. And one may want to describe a beautiful life as a life that is manifesting God, Godliness and fulfilling its God-given purpose, in a healthy relationship network with a beautiful mind work.
Thus, the following components are highlighted;
- A beautiful spiritual life
- A purpose driven life
- A beautiful brain and talents
- A healthy relationship network
Although, these entire components may not be simultaneously in place. However, an excellence in one or more of these can make enough reason to tagging one as beautiful.
Secondly, these components mark the perspective at which beauty is defined.
DEFINING BEAUTY FROM THE PURPOSE PERSPECTIVE
There is Beauty in every woman who is not just living but determined to live for something. Such women are at peace with themselves by being what they must be. According to Ralph Waldo Emerson “The purpose of life is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, and to have it make some difference that one have lived and lived well.”
Women who are gifts to humanity are able to experience the extent of their being, and to experience the wholeness of who they really are; that’s true beauty.
In a more serious note, a beautiful woman is one who does not leave her future and fate in someone else’s hands.
BEAUTY DEFINED FROM THE PERSPECTIVE OF BRAINS AND TALENTS
Its brains are beauty not merely brains and beauty. That is; there is beauty in every smart woman.
Smartness here is beyond having a good IQ. This Beauty comes from belonging to and serving something beyond oneself and from developing the best within one. There is an impacted beauty through a life of intense learning and hard work. Such beauty is consequent to an amazing journey of life into discovering who one really is and positioning oneself (by making informed choices) for divinity to experience itself through one’s life.
The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.
Examples of such women abound across the spheres of academics, science, entrepreneurs, vessels of God, leaders and so on. These womenhave the power to impact lives and inspire the world even after hundreds of years.
BEAUTY DEFINED FROM THE PERSPECTIVE OF RELATIONSHIP NET
True beauty is within; it is the source of kindness, grace and love we display towards everyone around us. There is beauty in being in relationships where we’re valued for who we are intrinsically and where we value others as well.
A beautiful relationship life begins with having a meek, pleasant and charitable character and extends to having a wealth of people around one’s life. Like the popular saying, ‘friends are the flowers in the garden of our life.
BEAUTY DEFINED FROM THE SPIRITUAL PERSPECTIVE
Spiritual beauty; which should be most esteemed, is characterized by the presence and manifestations of spiritual virtues of Faith, Grace, Wisdom, Anointing of the Holy Spirit… etc.
Women that are spiritually beautiful are fearless and strong when it comes to facing hard situations. They are confident in whom they are and what they believe, and in their example of fearlessness, they encourage others to be courageous and make a difference. The list abounds of such fearless women in the bible who by their Faith subdued kingdoms, wrought righteousness, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, and obtained a good report. Hebrews 11:33
A very familiar example in our dispensation is the case of Kathryn Kuhlman. The testimony of her prayer life and oneness with the Holy Ghost is one which many still day-dream about till today after more than forty years of her life on earth. What more beauty can be more than hers?
True beauty is attainable the moment we choose to embrace everything that is selfless, kind, courageous and loving about us, true beauty surfaces transforming one from the inside out, molding one into a timeless masterpiece, and a true work of art.
There is nothing more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection.
More so, we are all beautiful to the one person that matters; ourselves. We are the chief beholder of our beauty.