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Living a love life naturally requires an understanding of the importance of honouring one another.

Dissimulation, as used in the bible verse of Romans 12:9, depicts love that has a preference, ulterior motives, love that is shown for a momentous reason. Or acting up, forming, biased, with respect of man. It also meant love in pretense. A very good example of such a love expression is romantic love.

Text: Romans 12:9-10, 13:8 Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; Owe no man any thing, but to love one another: for he that loveth another hath fulfilled the law.

Living a Life in Honour

In honour, we effortlessly fulfill Apostle Pauls’s bidding in Ephesians 5:21, ‘Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God‘. Honour has to do with estimations; our calculations of the worth of others, including our value for their seeming physical worth.

Naturally, we highly esteem and regard people that we have a preference for and people that we assume to be of inestimable value. Like a successful person, a beautiful sister, their social status, one’s earnings or your friends and people who esteem us right, and whatever parameters we choose for our calculations.

But that’s the natural man, always looking for physical and logical reasons to honour another in love, with dissimulation.

For the spiritual man, loving without dissimulation starts from understanding the worth of one another in the most spiritual perspective:

  • The perspective of the man in Christ; what is the worth of the man in Christ? ~they are bigger than any parameters you choose to measure them.
  • The perspective of the love of God; how much does God love us all? ~without preference, He loved us all SO MUCH that He gave US His ONLY begotten SON (John 3:16). The bible verse of Romans 5:8 reads-‘But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.’ Just as God loves us without analyzing the different weights of our sins, He also commanded that we love one another without choosing natural reasons to do so. .., That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another(John 13:34).
  • The perspective of your own worthlessness without Christ and your daily needs for the upholding of His mercy and Grace.
  • The perspective of the vanities of physical life. ‘I have seen all the works that are done under the sun; and, behold, all is vanity and vexation of spirit. Vanity of vanities, saith the Preacher, vanity of vanities; all is vanity‘ (Eccl 1:14, 1:2).

Don’t bring people down to a physical sense

You remembered those times when you needed to walk out on people, or you sighed on their mischievous attitude, those times when you asked questions like; who do you think you are? what can you do? and when you made comments like; do your worst, serves you right, abegi…etc.

Such times follow after you might have reduced such persons to your physical senses. You have analyzed them and tagged them as nothing. This is not a character of the man in Christ.

The Pharisees were in it when they reduced Jesus to the natural sense-read their words in Matthew 13:55-57 ‘Is not this the carpenter’s son? is not his mother called Mary? and his brethren, James, and Joses, and Simon, and Judas? And his sisters, are they not all with us? Whence then hath this man all these things? And they were offended in him. But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, save in his own country, and in his own house‘.

When people tempt you, refuse to be negatively influenced, Learn to do what the bible said in … Ephesians 4:2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love.
Proverbs 25:15 By long forbearing is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.

Don’t hold back your love, that’s your debt towards all men.
The purpose of this article will not allow me to talk about honour to parents, honour to superiors and spiritual heads…

The essence of love without dissimulation is that you get unlimited blessings from God and you are favorable towards men, especially in situations where you’d never imagined it coming.


Don’t bring people down to a physical sense.
See people from a spiritual perspective; who they are in Christ or the measure at which God loves them.

This way, your honour for persons like Zuckerberg would not be anything different from the honour you have for-say ‘your father’s employees’.

This is love without di-ssi-mu-la-tion.


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